Whether we like it not, our partner was 'attracted' into our life by our karma. Our partner or soulmate has been sent with the specific purpose of 'pressing our buttons' in order that we may grow. In fact a true soulmate, will continue to cause us to have to grow.
Whilst we may choose not to learn from these lessons (our partner pressing our buttons) and we may 'blame' our partner for 'their' reactions to us...
In the end it is always "us" who needs to change. For you see, our partner is a 'mirror' of us in the sense that what they say and do that annoys us, is purely a reflection (of some kind) of that which we ourselves need to address.
So, how do we get past the 'annoyances' of our partner? Firstly, we must always realise that any time we begin to react to our partner, this is highlighting a part of us that needs changing or at least requires addressing. Rather than trying to change our partner, it is wise to focus on changing ourselves, for ultimately we have complete power over this.
Conversely, if we are to try and change our partner (generally because we see negatives in them that are actually a mirror and are actually things we need to change) then we are in for a constant battle whereby karma will continually bring out the negative in them in cyclic scenarios until such time as we surrender and do the following:
* Love them regardless of their external actions, reactions and so on. * Focus on changing ourselves only. * Realise that anything we see in our partner and find annoying, is actually a mirror for us to reflect upon changing within ourselves.